Hear/Listen/Talk

Hearing/Listening: You can listen to anyone speak but do you really hear what they are trying to say. Most people listen but at the same time, they are thinking about what they want to say to you, which is not listening at all. When you listen to someone talk, you need to let that person complete their part of the conversation and then speak based on what you have heard, which shows them that you were really listen. On the other hand, the person doing the talking has to learn to speak about one thing at a time and let the other person comment on that one thing and then go to the next part of the conversation. Separate your feelings to be dealt with one by one. It takes a heart to talk. It takes a heart to listen. It also takes a willing heart to hear.

Talk (communicate) to resolve a situation. Listen to each other to be closer in your relationship. If you love each other, care enough to listen to what each other has to say. Care about the fact, that someone took the time to tell you how they feel. Listen to hear their heart. Listen when you don’t want to listen by adjusting your heart to care. Listen to Change yourself for the sake of love. Listen to your mate to have peace in your home.

Consideration: * Don’t talk to hear yourself listen- how can you hear what is being said. *Don’t cut someone off in the middle of expressing how they feel,-that’s rude. If you don’t listen, how are they supposed to feel important to you * Don’t turn away, shout down or get distance every time he/’she try to make you understand that your driving them crazy- because they’re trying to put up with your non-sense. * Don’t ignore a heart that is trying to express their hurt… try giving them a safe place to pour out their feelings. * Don’t be a selfish-listener by saying what you want to say and then walking away, never giving the other person a chance to express how they feel to avoid listening.

Complainers

Complainers seem to be very unhappy people inside. There’s a lot that they don’t like about themselves. Things will always be wrong or only half right and could be done better their way. They see life differently than others. I guess. If they spend all their time complaining about you, it takes the focus off of themselves. There will never be anything that you can do to please a complainer. Sometimes the complaining is about a whole different problem.

Complainers have somewhat of a control issue. Everything they say is more important than what you have to say to them; Very judgmental and quick to point a finger.

Common Sense Solution: Invest in Ear Plugs; do everything they say; get Counseling Or Leave.

Comunication

Communication: I don’t think that people realize that words are all they have with each other. I’ve found that people arguer to keep from talking, for, if they talk, someone has to tell the truth, admit a lie or face their wrong-head-on. Communication is listening without thinking about what you want to say; not listening for words to use against the person who’s talking; listen and try to hear what’s really being said. Communication is talking to someone, not talking at someone. In listening, some words may hurt but give that person a chance to say something to make your heart feel better.

From My Heart: It takes love and caringness to address important situations with patience and understanding; to be able to able to discuss issues that matters most to you; to not be quick to augur but talk calmly; to not be assume you know what the other person has to say and rudely cut them off. It takes a sincere man or woman to sit down and talk about matters of the heart. Communication starts with being honest with yourself and your mate. Secrets and lies damage the communication of love.

Some people don’t want to listen- when you listen, that means that you are responsible for what you hear. Listening takes sacrifice, control, humbleness and a willingness to change. Listening could take the relationship to a higher-deeper level. Much love comes more responsibilities.

Love and care enough to listen to each other’s thoughts, ideals, opinions and emotions. Learn to communicate in a healthy way. Try to see and hear things from a different perspective. Communication takes compromise, understanding and mercy on both parts. Think first, choose your words carefully and pray that your words are received with understanding.

GirlScout Cookies

Poetry Girl Scout Cookies (by Ms Doggett)

He walks through the door and says “Honey I’m home” as if I’m not standing here looking at him. He turns to put his coat on the rack by the door. I sweetly said, “Glad your home honey, Shelia called”. His coat and shoes must have weighed a ton because he didn’t move an inch and I wasn’t sure he was still breathing. Like the news-paper funny pages, I could see that little white balloon above his head filled with the words “damn, damn, damn, no -she- didn’t”.

He turn to speak but I cut him off and said don’t worry about, we’ll talk later and I left him standing there and headed to the kitchen and fixed his plate. The tension at the dinner table… you could cut it with a chainsaw. We got ready for bed, room filled with guilty silence, regret and no eye contact. He reaches for me and says “I’m sorry” and I said “Sorry for what”. He said that he only slept with her once and I looked at him and said, “She called to see if you still wanted her Girl Scout Cookies”. Well, I guess you do.

One Extreme To Another

Poetry
One Extreme To Another: There has never been a balance within my thinking I go from one extreme to another and there is never a-in-between Either I’m helpless romantic or a realist, compassionate or cold hearted Either a wife at heart or a whore by nature, a friend or an enemy Either I’m mad to a dangerous degree or there’s nothing you do to tick me off Either I go all the way or I don’t go at all, forever or never Either I give 100 percent or 1 percent, pour my heart out or allow my feelings to die One extreme or the other, a woman of God or a woman of the world Adjust, adapt, improvise and survive; these could be my reasons Hey, I’m still a work in process.