Wisdom Notes-33

They Were So Busy Going Through The Motions Of A Relationship, They Didn’t See Me Watching Them.

They stood side by side but I could see no love. They spoke to each other but I could not hear communication. They were nice to eachother but there was not kindness. They looked at eachother but didn’t see eachother. They laughed but they weren’t happy. He held the door for her, a routine he had done for 20 years. They had a love of comfort, stability & knowingly secrets (everyone knows but doesn’t say anything).

To live in a grave yard and die in that grave yard…. I don’t think so.

Wisdom Notes-28

IT’S SO HARD TO COMMUNICATE; ONE WORD CAN HAVE SO-MANY-DIFFERENT MEANINGS.

I love you means I like you alot. I miss you means I miss something you do. I need you means I need sex. Your the one means your the one right now. I trust you means I trust as far as I can see. Don’t go means stay until I don’t need you. You hurt my feelings means nothing.

Unconditional Love

Loving as God intended; Love that endures all things; Love that is a sincere, endearing, emotional, praying, compassionate, unselfish, merciful communication of the heart, soul, spirit, mind and body of two people in a relationship for a life-time. Love… a fairytale with a happy-ever-after.

Love through the good, the bad; love through sickness and health; love through joy, happiness, disagreements, misunderstandings, hurt and pain; love through storms, rains and cloudy days; love through richness, wealth and poverty; love through insecurities and pride. Love is the security of a solid ground, stability, doing what is right for you and your family.

Love does not lie. Love is honesty and doing nothing that will create a need to lie. Love does not argue, fuss and fight. Love is peaceful, kind, understanding and merciful Love does not leave because it’s the easier choice. Love endures, works things out in love and . Love is not being prejudice. We are all God’s children, we were not meant to be the same Love is not abusive: No one belongs to no one. No one should have that much power over you to make you mad. Love does not keep secrets: Secrets changes the texture of a relationship like a drop of dye in a pure glass of water. Love is not selfish: Love not about self. We are all here for someone else. Love is

We are all here for someone else. Love is sacrifice of self with wisdom, giving joyfully without expecting something in return, helping willingly without motives, putting someone else’s needs before your own.

Soul-Ties

There are a few things that create Soul-Ties: Sex, Sin, NeverBefore-Love, First Times, & Prayer. It’s the moment when sex becomes a function of your heart. It’s when, the only connection or communication you have with each other is sex that bonds you in an unhealthy way. It’s when sex is all you have to show each other love, when sex is the peaceful moment between the fights and arguments, you have nothing. If sex is the only thing you miss about your mate and sex is the reason you can’t make yourself walk away. It’s an addiction. Wisdom: Sex blinds the eyes, cripple the heart and cloud the mind. Sex is not love.

From My Heart: Sex without marriage is Sin. The outcome of Sin is pain, hurt, regret and shame. Sex isn’t something that you can take back or undo.

Prayer between two is the hardest bond to break. Spirit ties are deeper than the ocean, stronger than the strongest wind.

Divided You Fall

Fall Love, Business, Marriage & Friendships divided one from another….. Fails. * One mate working days and the other working nights is never a good thing. Nights hold much evil. You miss important moments that create a solid and sincere foundation. * Marriages built on lies, money, motives, secrets. * Marriages built on lies, money, motives, secrets, half-truths, physical attraction, sex and material things, divorce is waiting you.

* Business partners with different moral, value and plans, going in the same direction only to get to two different destinations is a rough road to travel. * A Pastor marrying the wrong woman, his ministry suffers, his spiritual growth is hindered. There is a silent division the church becomes his wife. * A relationship with uncertainty, going with the flow, words filled with “maybe” and “what if,” makes room for hurt, foolishness and mistakes.

* A Parent uncomfortable with communication, never take time to understand their children; label their children as a nobody or just like their no good mom or dad; judging them without listening, putting them aside for relationships, friends, jobs or money…causes an unhealthy future for that child.

* Dividing a STATE: Black, White, Other, Young, Old, Fat, Skinny, Tall, Short, Light, Dark, Poor, Rich, Smart, Dumb, Healthy, Sick, Educated, Uneducated, Beautiful, Ugly, Husband, Wife From My Heart Divided you fall. Divided we fail. Divided, they win. Life without God shall cease to be no more.

Comunication

Communication: I don’t think that people realize that words are all they have with each other. I’ve found that people arguer to keep from talking, for, if they talk, someone has to tell the truth, admit a lie or face their wrong-head-on. Communication is listening without thinking about what you want to say; not listening for words to use against the person who’s talking; listen and try to hear what’s really being said. Communication is talking to someone, not talking at someone. In listening, some words may hurt but give that person a chance to say something to make your heart feel better.

From My Heart: It takes love and caringness to address important situations with patience and understanding; to be able to able to discuss issues that matters most to you; to not be quick to augur but talk calmly; to not be assume you know what the other person has to say and rudely cut them off. It takes a sincere man or woman to sit down and talk about matters of the heart. Communication starts with being honest with yourself and your mate. Secrets and lies damage the communication of love.

Some people don’t want to listen- when you listen, that means that you are responsible for what you hear. Listening takes sacrifice, control, humbleness and a willingness to change. Listening could take the relationship to a higher-deeper level. Much love comes more responsibilities.

Love and care enough to listen to each other’s thoughts, ideals, opinions and emotions. Learn to communicate in a healthy way. Try to see and hear things from a different perspective. Communication takes compromise, understanding and mercy on both parts. Think first, choose your words carefully and pray that your words are received with understanding.